Radiating Confidence. A State of Presence?
Posted on November 27, 2017
“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit” ~ E.E. Cummings
Confidence is a topic that comes up frequently in our leadership training courses, whether its in relation to cultivating an assertive mindset to awaken possibilities through collaborative communication, nurturing trust within the team, or connecting in with your authentic leadership style and presence.
While there is no magic formula to boost confidence overnight, there are two fundamental wellsprings of practice, which when fostered, can help you to access and naturally nourish your inner confidence.
These two wellsprings of practice for radiating confidence are:
- Appreciating yourself as you are.
- Appreciating the moment as it is.
Appreciating yourself as you are is about honouring who you are in every moment, in every exchange that you participate in and in every experience that unfolds through you.
As Stephanie Zamora (2013) describes: ‘you make no apologies for being awkward, nervous, excited, loud, soft spoken… you are just you, genuinely content with yourself.’
3 activities that we invite you to experiment with, to see how this wellspring enables you to nourish inner confidence are:
- Make a list of your strengths and achievements.
- Reveal a bit of the real you in a situation that challenges you.
- Know your principles and live them.
Appreciating the moment as it is is about being 100% engaged in the present moment, sensorily participating in the here and now; joyfully, with pleasure, contentment and curiosity. You are at peace with the present moment, occupying it and the world around you from a place of non-judgment.
This sensory experience of being ‘present’ is also a mechanism for getting out of the head in order to redirect energy away from default self-depreciating narratives and habits of negative thinking- quieting the inner critique.
3 activities that we invite you to experiment with, to see how this wellspring enables you to nourish inner confidence through grounding yourself in the presence moment are:
- Pause, smile and breathe deeply.
- Tap into the feeling of gratitude.
- Find opportunities to lean into and embrace a new experience with an attitude of curiosity and play.
When we are acting from a place of contentment and acceptance of who we are and how life is meeting us in this moment, we access an inner confidence that radiates out from us, and influences others; cultivating a quality of leadership not just within ourselves but also in those we interact with while in this state of presence and peace.
We’d love to hear from you about your experiences of adopting these practices.